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The Garden of Eden

The Garden of Eden is a symbol of life the way God intended it to be. In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve knew who they were in God. They were aware of their belovedness which was their original blessing. Their belovedness was enough in the Garden of Eden. They did not need anything else. This is why they were content in Eden, in harmony with God, themselves, one another and nature.

When Adam and Eve refused to accept their status as God’s beloved creation they expelled themselves from the Garden of Eden. This led to the development of the ego or false self. The false self came into existence after the fall. It was created when the original blessing of Adam and Eve was contaminated by original sin. The false self is Adam and Eve trying to survive outside the Garden. And very quickly they discover that they can’t! When Adam and Eve put themselves outside the garden they lost the experience of their belovedness, their original blessing. Their original blessing created their true selves; their original sin created their false selves.

Like Adam and Eve we too struggle to survive outside the Garden of Eden. Our false self has us look for happiness in the wrong places, the wrong things and the wrong relationships. Because of the false self we overly invest in accumulation, achievement and the need for approval. This investment is the main reason why many of us end up exhausted, dissatisfied and with battered self-esteem. If we have any hope of finding some of the harmony which existed in the Garden of Eden we need to claim our belovedness, our original blessing.

Claiming our belovedness involves the acceptance of unconditional love. We need to find a way of owning the truth that we are loved and lovable as we are. Accepting the truth that we are loved and lovable as we are, leads to deeper self-acceptance and a release from the pressure to accumulate, achieve and be attractive.

More and more people are turning to some form of contemplative practice to help them claim their belovedness. Contemplative practice is a form of prayer that allows us to be, to receive and to let ourselves be loved unconditionally. It requires us to make some time for silence. In silence we are able to hear the still small voice within us. This voice assures us that we belong to God and that God is pleased with us as we are. This is why silence can be a homecoming to our own deepest belonging. It certainly helps to bring us back to the Garden of Eden.

Be Humble

It is obvious from reading all four gospels that Jesus favours the humble over the proud. The humble accept life as a gift from God. They have no pretence. They know who they are and where they have come from. The humble have nothing to prove to themselves and to others. They are secure in their knowledge of God’s love.

The proud on the other hand are full of their own self-importance. They are preoccupied with their reputation and their status. They usually do things out of self-interest. They are insecure. While the proud are self-sufficient and self-reliant the humble know their need of God and other people.

In his teaching and his ministry Jesus always sought to get rid of the things that caused division between people. The Jewish authorities had created a society of distinctions. It was a hierarchical society and the yardstick for measuring status and prestige was observance of the law. Those like the Pharisees who kept the law considered themselves better and holier than everyone else. Indeed, they looked down on everyone else. This was ironic because the law they sought to keep was more about externals than about values; more about ritual purity than about relationships.

In the world of Jesus we are all God’s children; we belong to the family of God and each one of us is loved uniquely by the Father. This means that we are sisters and brothers to one another, sharing a common humanity and an equal dignity. To accept that we are equal in the family of God is to accept that we are no better or no worse than anyone else. It is to accept that we do not need to make ourselves feel important by isolating ourselves or by looking down on other people. Those who know who they are in the eyes of God also know who they are in the human family. This is the kind of knowing that helps to build inclusive community.

The word humility comes from the Latin ‘humus’ which means of the earth. When we are tempted by the many forms of pride it is good to remind ourselves that we were created by God from the dust of the earth. “Remember that we are dust and unto dust we call return” (Ash Wednesday blessing). No matter who we think we are, we are totally dependent on God. What’s more, we are dependent on other people. The humble man relies on God and on others. The proud man relies on himself. Humility leads to communion, pride leads to isolation. Communion is heaven, isolation is hell.

Lent’s Invitation

Whether we are aware of it or not there is a huge hole inside of each of us that we are constantly trying to fill, often without success. This hole has a major influence on the way we live our lives. Our problem is we try to fill this hole with the wrong things. We think that things like possessions and work and popularity will take away our inner ache and satisfy our longing for happiness. The truth is they don’t. Accumulation, achievement and our need for the approval of others cannot fill our empty hole. To believe otherwise is an illusion and a false philosophy. We human beings have a terrible habit of looking for happiness in the wrong places.

The hole inside of us can only be filled by love. It is love, in fact it is unconditional love, that takes away our inner restlessness. This is why God is the only one who can fill our empty hole. Only God is unconditional love. God loves without requirements and without restrictions. To let ourselves be loved as we are by God is the only way to satisfy the yearning in our hearts.

To let myself be loved unconditionally by God is to know that I am enough. When I am able to say, ‘I am enough’ I am able to say, ‘I have enough.’ If I am not able to say, ‘I am enough’ I will continue to want more. I will want more and more possessions, information, success, recognition, approval, power. To be able to say, ‘I have enough’ is a sign that I am filling my inner hole with the right kind of love.

Of course the culture we live in today does not make it easy for us to say, ‘I have enough.’ Our culture is driven by capitalist and consumerist philosophies; by making money and spending money. It is notable how often we are referred to in the media as consumers. Our culture is also driven by a work ethic that has us measure our worth by what we do, by our achievements and successes. Then there is the impact of social media sites like Facebook that feed our desire for attention and the approval of others. There are powerful forces at work in our lives that want us to fill the hole we have inside with the wrong things. It takes a lot of self-awareness to recognise these forces and much courage to say ‘no’ to them.

There are two ways to fill the hole we have inside. One works, the other doesn’t. Lent invites us to make the right choice.

Lent Matters

On Ash Wednesday the annual Christian fasting season, known as Lent, begins. Most world religions have an annual fasting season. The Christian one lasts for forty days and significantly coincides with spring. There are many reasons why it is good for Christians to have the fasting season of Lent. Here are a few.

Lent offers us an opportunity to start again, to make a new beginning. Failing and falling are part of the human condition. In the Christian view of life, failing and falling should never be a cause for despondency or despair. The God of Jesus is a God of abundant mercy and radical forgiveness, a God who wipes out past failures and invites us to make a fresh start. We should never be reluctant to begin again. Indeed, our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail. New beginnings are a necessary part of the Christian journey. They are always life-giving.

Lent is also an ideal time to restore the balance in our lives. Virtue is the happy medium, the golden mean. But the golden mean is hard to achieve. There is a tendency in human nature to over indulge, to develop addictions, to abuse our bodies, to become overly preoccupied with work, to neglect important relationships, to put too much emphasis on our material needs and not enough on our emotional and spiritual needs. Lent provides us with an opportunity to get back to a healthy diet – a healthy diet of food, of exercise, of relaxation, of prayer. Restoring the balance in our lives helps us to sort out our priorities, to decide what is good for us and what is not good for us.

Lent is the Christian fasting season which means that it should be focused on Jesus who is the Christ. There is really only one yardstick with which to measure the success of our Lenten fasting: Does it help us to become more like Jesus? The heart of Christianity is not a rule of law or a code of behaviour. It is a Person whose love we receive and whose life we seek to imitate. Ultimately, Lent is about Jesus. It is about Jesus’ vision of life, his values and the building of his Kingdom in the world. Therefore, the best type of fasting we can do in Lent is the fasting that helps us pay greater attention to Jesus and move closer to him. To use the language of St Paul, the goal of Lent is to get rid of the ‘old man’ who is the selfish me and to put on the ‘New Man’ who is the loving Christ.

Loneliness

Loneliness is a painful condition affecting many people today. Even before the social distancing caused by Covid 19, the loneliness people were experiencing in Britain was so dreadful and widespread that the Government there created a new ministerial post, Minister for Loneliness.

Loneliness is caused by isolation, the breakdown in relationships and the lack of real communication. It is true that the mobile phone and the internet are serving our need for connection, but the kind of connection they create is limited and often superficial. They lack a mutual physical presence and depth of engagement which the human person is made for. A contemporary phenomenon is the growth of the urban population. But urbanisation is leaving those who are left in rural areas feeling more and more isolated and those who have moved into cities feeling lost in a vast sea of impersonal restless activity. It is a fact that many people who live in cities do not know their neighbours. Some even admit to the television being their main source of company. Isolation and loneliness have the capacity to create darkness in the human heart which in turn leads to depression. This is understandable since we are made for relationships. To be human is to be in relationship. To quote the well-known words of John Donne, “No man is an island unto himself.”

Those who feel isolated and lonely can find sources of company. One source is the local parish. A parish is a Christian community and it offers people opportunities to spend time together. All parishes have a Sunday Eucharist and many have a daily one. Some parishes have regular prayer meetings including faith sharing inspired by scripture. Parishes also tend to have a variety of regular social events. These activities and more offer us ways to experience a sense of belonging and to become involved in the lives of others.

Another thing that can help us deal with the loneliness we feel is prayer. Prayer has been described as company-keeping with the Lord. There is a constant Presence in our lives waiting to be discovered. This Presence, though invisible, is real and personal and it offers us love and friendship. All we need do is find a way, our own way, of being aware of God’s presence. If we are willing to turn to God in the silence of our hearts we will find a source of companionship that comforts us in our loneliness. Through the experience of prayer it is possible to be alone but not feel lonely. This is because prayer turns silence into solitude. To experience solitude is to know that we are never alone.

A Healing Process

Low self-esteem is all pervasive in our culture. Within most of us there are powerful negative voices telling us that we are not good enough. It is absolutely essential that shame does not become the only experience we have of ourselves. We need to find a way that will allow us to experience ourselves differently.

One way can be summed up in the three rhyming words – name, claim, tame. We begin by naming our unfulfilled longing. There is deep longing in every human heart. It is difficult to know what this longing is about. Not only can it take time for us to acknowledge our longing. It also takes time to discover what it is for. Eventually we come to realise that our unfulfilled longing is a longing for unconditional love. Each and every one of us needs to know that we are loved and lovable as we are.

The good news of Jesus is that unconditional love is available to us. Unconditional love is available to us in the relationship that God has with each of us. God who is love, loves us as we are, without conditions, without expectations, without requirements. This is the core truth of the Christian Gospel, the one thing we can say with certainty. But it remains academic unless we claim it. Sooner or later we need to claim our belovedness.

Claiming our belovedness is one thing. We also need to tame what we call the false self. The false self is built around conditional love. It keeps us in the bondage of accumulation, achievement and approval. Because of it we tend to find our value in what we have, in what we do and in what other people think of us. Taming the false self is a process of awareness and surrender. First we recognise the many subtle and manipulative ways the false self is at work in ourselves and in the world around us. Then we invite the Holy Spirit to tame the power of our false self. Only the Holy Spirit, the Spirit that unites Jesus and his Father, can break the control that the false self has over us.

A Powerful Agenda

Those who have attended a conference or a workshop will know the value of a good introduction. It is helpful to be told by the presenter at the beginning what he or she intends to speak about and what he or she hopes to achieve.

Early in St Luke’s Gospel we have the account of Jesus’ first public engagement. Significantly, he went back to his own home village of Nazareth to launch his ministry. In the local synagogue on the Sabbath day surrounded by family and neighbours Jesus set out his stall, he told his listeners what he was going to do:

“The Spirit of the Lord has been given to me, for he has anointed me. He sent me to bring the good news to the poor, to proclaim liberty to captives and to the blind new sight, to set the downtrodden free to proclaim the Lord’s year of favour.” (Luke 4: 18-19)

From the very beginning Jesus made it clear that his work was about liberation. He had come to free people from the things in their lives that were imprisoning them, burdening them, weighing them down, preventing them from living life to the full. What concerned Jesus was:

Negative and narrow thinking that cloud the mind
Selfishness and resentment that hold the heart captive
Rejection and fear that create hurt and isolation
Oppression and exploitation that cause conflict and poverty

These were the things that Jesus fought against. These were the things that he sought to heal and to change. These were the things that caused him great suffering and in the end led to his death. The purpose of the life, death and resurrection of Jesus was to liberate humanity from evil in all its forms and expressions.

Claiming our Belovedness

Some years ago a woman by the name of Teresa came to talk to me about her experience of God. She was carrying negative images of God. For her, God was distant and demanding. He was like a policeman watching to catch her doing something wrong. He was also like a judge handing out sentences from on high. Needless to say Teresa was frightened of God and because of this she was finding it difficult to pray.

After listening to Teresa I asked her if she would be willing to try a new way of praying. I suggested that she spend ten minutes each day picturing in her mind what happened at the Baptism of Jesus. I invited her to do two things. Firstly, to imagine what it was like for Jesus to hear God the Father say to him, “You are my beloved Son in whom I am well pleased.” Secondly, to imagine that God the Father is saying the very same words to her, “Teresa, you are my beloved daughter in whom I am well pleased.” I asked her to notice what she was feeling as she heard God the Father telling her that he was pleased with her.

Three weeks later, Teresa came back to tell me how she was getting on. She said she was beginning to experience God differently. God was becoming easier to relate to. Rather than feeling that God was disappointed with her, she was beginning to feel that God was, in fact, pleased with her. Indeed, she was starting to accept that God knew her personally and that he was involved in her life.

The baptism of Jesus took place when he was an adult and it was a very significant event in his life. During his baptism Jesus had an overwhelming experience of unconditional love. He knew he was God’s beloved Son. He also knew that his Father took delight in him. What happened to Jesus at his baptism also happened to us at our baptism even though we were children and unaware of it. As our parents held us over the baptismal font, God the Father said to each of us, “You are my beloved in whom I am well pleased.” Unfortunately, because of life’s negative experiences this is a truth many of us find difficult to accept. Instead of believing in a loving and affirming God, we find ourselves believing in a demanding and judgemental God. Like Teresa, we need to find a way of getting rid of our negative images of God and of taking possession of the real relationship, the loving relationship, which God has with each of us. We need to find a way of claiming our belovedness. Perhaps a prayer exercise like the one Teresa was willing to try can help us.

Prayer for the New Year

Jesus,
You became one of us and one with us.
You know what it means to be fully human.
Be my companion on my journey through life.
Walk with me at all times,
in days that are happy and in days that are sad.
Support me when I feel lonely.
Strengthen me when I feel fear.
Comfort me when I feel anxious.
Help me to let go of the things that do not matter.
Give me the generosity to live like you
and the courage to die like you,
trusting always in the care and protection of your Father.
Amen.

A God With Skin On

There is a story told about a child who woke up from a dream in the middle of the night frightened. She was on her own so she cried out for protection. Her mother who was in the bedroom next door heard her cry and immediately came to comfort her. The mother tried to reassure her daughter that she was safe and that there was no reason for her to be frightened. ‘Don’t you know that God is looking after you,’ she said. ‘Yes mammy I know God is looking after me,’ the child replied, ‘but tonight I need a God with skin on!’

Jesus was God with skin on. People met God in the humanity of Jesus. This is what we are celebrating at Christmas; we call it the Incarnation. In Jesus, God became one of us; he became one with us. On that first Christmas night “The Word became flesh and lived among us” (John 1:14). Jesus of Nazareth was the very human face of God, the person in whom God was met and known in the most concrete of ways.

Because Jesus was God with skin on, we are also God with skin on. If God dwelt in the humanity of Jesus then God dwells in our humanity too. What we are celebrating at Christmas is not just the extraordinary fact that God put on flesh in Jesus, but the even more extraordinary fact that we put flesh on God for each other. This truth is poetically expressed in this little verse: “I sought my soul I could not see; I sought my God and He eluded me; I sought my neighbour and I found all three.” In the concrete reality of our neighbour we meet God. In the earthiness of our neighbour we meet God. In the humanness of our neighbour we meet God. This is the implication of what happened on that first Christmas all those years ago.

The birth of Jesus raised the dignity of our humanity to a whole new realm. Whether we are aware of it or not, God is living and loving in each of us and this makes us sacred vessels and channels of the divine presence. To accept this is to accept that our humanity is the primary means through which God is involved in our world. To quote the words attributed to St Teresa of Avila:

“Christ has no body now on earth but yours, no hands but yours, no feet but yours. Yours are the eyes through which Christ’s compassion is to look out to the earth. Yours are the feet by which He is to go about doing good and yours are the hands by which He is to bless us now.”