Our Need for a Spiritual Path

“Among all my patients in the second half of life—that is to say, over thirty-five—there has not been one whose problem in the last resort was not that of finding a religious outlook on life. It is safe to say that every one of them fell ill because he had lost what the living religions of every age have given their followers, and none of them has been really healed who did not regain his religious outlook.”

These are the words of the renowned psychiatrist, Carl Jung. His experience of those in crisis was significant. When the crisis comes, and it will, we either find a spiritual path or we get stuck in depression and/or addictive behaviour. Finding a spiritual path requires us to surrender; self-sufficiency keeps us in a cycle of attachments and addictions.

There are many different spiritual paths available to us.  Some are highly structured and require a lot of discipline; others involve a commitment to the practice of a few core values.  A spiritual path gives us a sense of meaning and purpose.  It provides us with a way of dealing with painful experiences like hurt, abuse, rejection and negative feelings like anger, resentment, jealousy.  It also helps us feel connected to the divine presence in our lives.  For many this connection with the divine presence is an experience of unconditional love, forgiveness and protection that they have never felt before.

A spiritual path needs to have three elements.  These are prayer, companionship and service.  Prayer builds our relationship with the divine. Companionship is the experience of affirmation, support and soulful conversation. Service is the essential movement beyond ourselves in response to the needs of others.  If our spiritual path does not have these three elements it lacks balance and perhaps authenticity. It is important to remember that every spiritual path is not an end in itself but a means to an end.  There is always the danger that we will make an idol of our spiritual path.  If we become too attached to our spiritual path we are putting the path itself in the place of God.  The ultimate purpose of every spiritual path is to help us surrender to God who loves us unconditionally and who wants us to come home with empty hands.  “You have made us for yourself, O God, and our hearts are restless until they rest in you” (Saint Augustine).

The Heart’s Journey Home

In childhood we are wounded through no fault of our own.  It is the inevitable result of growing up.  Because of our wounds we develop a false self and fall into bondage.  We become separated, estranged from our original blessing, from the image of God within us, from our true selves.  As a result we feel lost, in exile, away from our true home.  We are held captive by false expectations and addictions, exploited by our culture.  We build our lives around accumulation, achievement and the constant need for human approval.

Our human condition needs liberation; it needs the healing and wholeness which is salvation. We need to make the journey home, to be brought back from exile.  We need to discover who we are in God; to be reconnected with our original identity, our belovedness.  This, in fact, is the primary purpose of religion.  It is certainly what the mission of Jesus was about.  Jesus sought to liberate people from their bondage to possessions, power and prestige; from seeking happiness in the wrong places.  He realised that people needed to be restored to their original blessing, their true selves.  He knew people needed to be helped to claim their belovedness. This is why his focus was on healing the wounds in the human heart that make us feel unworthy and inadequate.  It is why he constantly invited people to an inner transformation, to a dying to the false self and a rising to the true self.

The story of humanity as a whole and of every person as an individual can be found in the story Jesus told about the Prodigal (see Luke 15:11-32).  This is the story par excellence of our homecoming, of the journey our hearts need to make.  It is the story of a son whose search for happiness in accumulation, achievement and the approval of others ended in dissatisfaction, disappointment and eventual destitution.  It is the story of a man whose experience of falling and failing led him to realise that he was looking for happiness in the wrong places.  It is the story of a son who returned home with empty hands to find his father waiting for him with open hands.  It is the story of love experienced as gift, not achievement or requirements.  It is the story of a father, a prodigal father, whose unconditional love healed his son’s feelings of unworthiness and shame and reconnected him with his original blessing, his belovedness.  It is the universal story of what needs to happen in the life of every person if he or she is to experience healing and wholeness.

Caring for the Earth

With the publication of ‘Laudato Si’ Pope Francis has certainly brought spirituality down to earth! The earth is God’s good creation and our common home and we have a responsibility to look after it.  Care for the earth is both a political imperative and a personal one.  We may not have much of a say in influencing political decisions but we can make personal decisions that will create a difference.

There is no doubting the fact that our consumerist lifestyle is having a huge impact on our environment and on climate change.  Why do we need to consume so much?  Why do we find it difficult to say, ‘We have enough?’ It is true that material possessions are a source of comfort and satisfaction.  But there is a deeper reason why we consume.  It has to do with a misguided search for happiness.  Consumerism has us look for happiness in the wrong place, in things outside us.  The love we long for can only be found within. Unless we fill the hole we have inside with the right kind of love we will continue to indulge ourselves.  

Care for the earth also involves the choices we make around the use of energy.  Of course we need sources of energy in our homes, our places of work, our rural and urban environments and indeed for transportation. But do we need to be so wasteful with them.  Why drive half a mile to the local shop if we can walk?  Why leave our computers on if we are not using them or our televisions beaming if we are not watching them?  Why keep our central heating systems pitched high while we walk around our homes and offices in shirts or blouses?  These questions may sound a bit petty but they point to unnecessary waste.  If we do not stop exploiting the resources of the earth we will leave little for future generations.  Needless to say a decision to stop wasting requires personal discipline, something that doesn’t come easy to human nature.

Then there is our use of materials like plastic, paper and cardboard to mention a few. The production of these materials in such volumes is putting pressure on our natural resources and is polluting our waters and our countryside. We could be described as a disposable generation.  But the convenience of disposables comes at a cost.  Do we really want an earth whose beauty is contaminated and whose natural rhythms are quickly becoming imbalanced and out of tune?  What would the Creator say about our treatment of his creation?

Of course caring for the earth is about caring for the poor of the earth.  It always seems to be the poor who suffer most.  They are certainly suffering from the consequences of a ‘western’ lifestyle that cannot get enough, that is consuming and wasting to an alarming degree.  Climate change is affecting the poorer regions of the world much more than it is affecting the wealthier regions.  Famines caused by droughts and homelessness caused by flooding are more common in Africa and in Asia.  This is an undeniable fact.  A capitalism and consumerism that seeks to put the interests of the so called ‘first world’ first creates a hostile environment for those who are struggling to make ends meet. Ultimately care for the earth is about the practice of justice and a pathway to peace.

Our Human Experience

Christians believe that God is a Trinity of Persons, Father, Son and Holy Spirit.  In other words, Christians believe that there is a community life in the reality we call God.  One way to find out what this means is to read the Scriptures.  Another way is to explore our human experience.  If God has created us and our world, and if God is Trinity, then the Trinitarian life of God must be reflected in our human lives in all sorts of ways.

An obvious way is our social nature.  We are social beings.  We create relationships and we sustain relationships.  In fact, without relationships we wither and die emotionally, even physically.  John Donne once said that no man is an island unto himself.  We cannot survive in isolation.  It is in living with others, it is in loving others, that we find meaning and that we become our true selves.

Another way is the power of cooperation.  When it comes to a project, a task, an undertaking, the best results are usually achieved when there is cooperation, when people work together as a team.  Ask any sports person, any project manager, any government and they will tell you that the team effort is the best effort, it is the most fruitful and successful effort.  It is also the effort that gives most satisfaction and fulfilment to all those involved.

Then there is the unity of creation.  One of the things we are becoming more aware of today is the way creation functions.  The created world is interdependent.  One part of it affects another.  For example, the cutting down of the rain forests in South America has an impact on climate patterns in Europe and Africa.  The laws of nature are finely balanced and when they are allowed to work together in unity and harmony they fulfil their purpose.

And finally, there is this attempt by a woman to describe what trinity means in her life:

“I am a daughter and a wife and mother – three things, yet I am one totality.  To my parents, I would always be their child.  To my husband, a companion and a mate.  To my children, the one who gave them birth and nurtured them till they reached adulthood.  I seem to each of them a different person.  They each know a different kind of ‘me.’  But I am one, within myself a trinity and each of them finds unity in me.”

Sacred Spaces

It is good for us to remember the place sacred spaces have in our lives.  It was in a sacred space that we were welcomed into the Christian community at baptism.  It was in a sacred space that we received our first communion, made our first confession, were confirmed and perhaps married or ordained.  And it will be from a sacred space that we will be entrusted to God’s other world beyond the grave when we die.

Every Christian community needs a sacred space in which to gather for worship and fellowship.  This sacred space we usually call a church.  But in calling our sacred spaces churches it is important to realise that a church is not, in fact, a building but a faith community, a community who believe that Jesus is the way, the truth and the life.

To develop a relationship with God it is not enough to gather in a church once a week with other Christians.  We also need to build a practice of personal prayer into our lives.  If our faith communities need sacred spaces to pray, so does each individual.  John Fullenbach once said, “We cannot pray all of the time everywhere, but we must pray some of the time somewhere.” To pray sometime somewhere it is really helpful to have our own sacred space. 

A sacred space is a place apart, a place free from distraction and from noise. A sacred place can be anywhere because God is everywhere.  It can be in a corner of your bedroom or your living room.  It can be in your conservatory or in your attic. The important thing is that it is accessible and easy to get to.  In your sacred place it is helpful to have a chair that is firm but comfortable.  It is also good to have a symbol or symbols of the presence of God.  These may be a lighted candle or an open bible or a picture or an icon.  A sacred space is your place.  It is your place to be alone.  A sacred space is important because the right kind of environment and atmosphere are important if we are going to spend time in personal prayer.

The gospels tell us that Jesus regularly went off by himself usually in the early morning to a lonely place to pray.  Here it is helpful not to misunderstand the word lonely.  It simply means a place of silence and solitude.  Jesus had his sacred spaces which allowed him spend time in intimate sharing with the one he called Abba. If sacred spaces helped Jesus to pray, they will certainly help us too.

A Sacred Time

The period between the Ascension and Pentecost is a very sacred time.  It is the period of the first novena, nine days of prayer.  Between the Ascension and Pentecost the disciples of Jesus kept vigil, they watched and waited for the gift from above.  Conscious of their need for divine help and inspiration, the disciples prayed earnestly for the gift Jesus promised them, the gift of the Holy Spirit.  The scriptures tell us that they “joined in continuous prayer, together with several women including Mary the mother of Jesus” (Acts 1:14). 

The days leading up to Pentecost offer us an ideal opportunity to pray for a fresh outpouring of the Holy Spirit in our personal lives and in the life of the Christian community. The energy and enthusiasm required to live the Christian life comes from the Holy Spirit; so does the wisdom we need to make good decisions. The world today needs Christians who have listened to the promptings of the Holy Spirit and who are willing to practice the values of Jesus with conviction and courage.

The sacred days leading up to Pentecost are also an ideal time to bring into the divine presence our needs and our intentions.  We all have things we are struggling with, things that are difficult and perhaps painful to deal with.  Even though we have a tendency to rely on our own power and strength to overcome our problems we do not have to manage these on our own.  The Holy Spirit is waiting for our invitation.  The Holy Spirit wants to help us.  The Holy Spirit can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.

It is becoming more and more obvious that the Church is undergoing a major transition. Old models of faith practice which we held dear are breaking down leaving many of us feeling confused and lost.  While it is necessary to grieve for the things we are losing, it is also important to believe that this time of transition offers us wonderful new opportunities.  The Holy Spirit is with us as our guide and inspiration.  The sacred days between Ascension and Pentecost are a special time to ask the Holy Spirit to help us find a new direction for the Church, new ways of being community and new sources of nourishment for our spiritual lives.        

Come Holy Spirit. Inspire our minds with your wisdom. Fill our hearts with your love. Help us to believe that you are always with us, guiding us, helping us and uniting us. Amen.

An Act of Trust

There is a defining moment in the life of the great Abraham who is often referred to as our Father in Faith.  God asked Abraham to sacrifice his only son Isaac. This was a huge ask for Abraham.  Isaac was the child of his old age, his pride and joy, his only hope of posterity. 

On the face of it, it seems cruel for God to ask Abraham to let go of his beloved son.   But God needed to put Abraham to the test.  It was important that the man God had chosen to be our Father in Faith would have complete trust in him.  We know that Abraham responded to God’s request.  He did what God invited him to do.  He abandoned himself totally to God.  In response God not only spared the life of Isaac.  He also showered blessings in abundance on Abraham and his descendants. “I make a vow by my own name – the Lord is speaking – that I will richly bless you.  Because you did this and did not keep back your only son from me, I promise that I will give you as many descendants as there are stars in the sky or grains of sand along the seashore.  Your descendants will conquer their enemies.  All the nations will ask me to bless them as I have blessed your descendants – all because you obeyed my command” (Genesis 22:16-18).

As we go through life our faith in God is tested.  Difficult and painful experiences like failure, rejection, disappointment and sickness make us wonder if God is really loving and caring. Often in the face of suffering the silence of God can be deafening.  Like Abraham, we have a choice to make.  We can either trust God in the hope that God will eventually bring good out of our pain or we can blame God for the distress we find ourselves in.  Suffering can either draw us closer to God or make us bitter.

It is important for us to realise that God does not cause human suffering.  Free will does.  However, God uses our suffering to strengthen our trust.  God can best work in our lives when we allow ourselves to depend on him.  Self-sufficiency keeps us distant from God; surrender brings us near to God. Growth in our spiritual lives requires deeper levels of surrender and trust.  Abraham was richly rewarded for his great act of surrender and trust.  So will we.

The Good Shepherd

A number of years ago I was in Cyprus on a family holiday.  The apartment block where we were staying was in a semi-rural location.  Very early one morning I heard some noise outside. I went on to the balcony to find out where the sounds were coming from.  In the field right next to the complex I saw a shepherd grazing his sheep. Leaning against his shepherd’s staff he was talking to his sheep as they enjoyed eating the grass. He moved around the field from one place to another and as he did so the sheep naturally followed him.  It was a wonderful insight into the relationship between a shepherd and his sheep in that part of the world.  It was obvious that there was a close bond between them, a bond built on personal knowledge and trust.

There are two things each one of us needs to know from Jesus.  The first: Does Jesus know me personally?  The second: Can Jesus be trusted?  In describing himself as the Good Shepherd Jesus is saying a very definite ‘yes’ to both these questions.

I am a name to Jesus, not just a number.  Jesus says to me, “I have called you by your name, you are mine.”  “I have carved your name on the palm of my hand.”  Perhaps no place in scripture better describes the personal knowledge Jesus has of each one of us than Psalm 139.  “O God you search me and you know me.  You know my resting and my rising. You mark when I walk or lie down. All my ways lie open to you.  Before ever a word is on my tongue you know it, O Lord, through and through…….”  We should have no reason to doubt that Jesus knows us personally and intimately.  Indeed Jesus knows us better than we know ourselves.

If Jesus knows us so intimately then surely we can trust him.  Jesus is on our side.  He is certainly not out to get us!  He is always seeking to do the right thing for us.  Jesus wants what is best for us.  Jesus knows what is best for us. If Jesus wants the very best for each of us then he can be trusted even when he does allow us to suffer and make a mess of things.    We must never doubt the faithfulness of Jesus.  On him we can totally depend.

An Ocean of Mercy

God is certainly persistent.  God never gives up on anyone, no matter who they are and what they have done.  God keeps pursuing us, reaching out to us, drawing us back, leading us home.  God is, in the words of Francis Thompson, ‘The Hound of Heaven.’

Why does God pursue us so persistently? Because God is merciful.  The heart of the Lord is mercy.  The gospels, especially the Gospel of Luke are full of stories about the mercy of God.  Perhaps the best known is the story of the prodigal.  The word prodigal can mean two things.  It can mean wayward and it can mean lavish.  The love of the father for his wayward son was lavish in the extreme.  It was a love that was expressed in and through tender mercy.

One of the plays I studied in secondary school was ‘The Merchant of Venice’ by William Shakespeare.  For some reason the words I find easiest to remember in that play are those uttered by Portia to Shylock the merchant intent on his pound of flesh:                                    

“The quality of mercy is not strain’d,
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath: it is twice blest;
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes:
‘Tis mightiest in the mightiest.”

The quality of God’s mercy is never strained.  It is never measured, never weighed on a balance.  Because of God’s unlimited mercy we are forgiven when we fail, followed when we stray and found when we are lost.  It is the mercy of God that turns our feelings of guilt into feelings of peace.

Many of us have inherited a judgemental and critical God, a God who is demanding and difficult to please, a God who exacts justice.  Let’s be clear. This is not the God of Jesus.  This is not the Abba Jesus spoke so affectionately and intimately about.  Like Shylock we humans may want others to pay for their wrong doing, but let us not project this on to God.  God is way beyond our desire for vengeance. God is mercy, pure and simple.  For each and every one of us who are constantly failing and falling, God’s unlimited mercy will have the last word, the final say.  In death we will fall into an ocean of mercy.

Compassion

I wrote this reflection a number of years ago.  It seems more apt and relevant now.  At a time when many of us are struggling and suffering because of the pandemic that is coronavirus perhaps what we need most is compassion. To paraphrase the words of Ram Dass, We need to just walk each other home.

Horror gripped the heart of a World War I soldier, as he saw his lifelong friend fall in battle. Caught in a trench with continuous gunfire whizzing over his head, the soldier asked his lieutenant if he could go out into the man’s land between the trenches to bring his fallen comrade back. “You can go,” said the Lieutenant, “but I don’t think it will be worth it. Your friend is probably dead and you may throw your life away.” The Lieutenant’s words didn’t matter, and the soldier went anyway. Miraculously, he managed to reach his friend, hoisted him onto his shoulder and brought him back to their company’s trench. As the two of them tumbled in together to the bottom of the trench, the officer checked the wounded soldier, then looked kindly at his friend.  “I told you it wouldn’t be worth it,” he said. “Your friend is dead and you are mortally wounded.”  “It was worth it? Sir,” said the soldier. “What do you mean by worth it?” responded the Lieutenant. “Your friend is dead.” “Yes Sir,” the private answered, ” but it was worth it because when I got to him, he was still alive and I had the satisfaction of hearing him say….”Jim… I knew you’d come.”

This is a true story and a moving story.  It is a story about friendship.  It is also a story about the nature of compassion.  Compassion is more than doing deeds of kindness for people who are in need.  It is more than fixing things.  It is more than finding solutions for people who have problems.   In essence compassion is simply about being there for people without pulling back in fear or anger. 

Compassion is being with others.  It is walking with and along-side other people.  In a rescue situation it is the difference between throwing a rope into a well and going down into the well.  Throwing the rope is a detached action that costs little.  Going down into the well is personal involvement in the situation.  This is what Jesus did.  He chose to become personally involved in our lives.  We call this the Incarnation.  It is reflected in the name Emmanuel, God with us, which is one of the titles given to Jesus.  Indeed Jesus himself in his hour of trial and struggle asked the very same from his companions.  “Watch and pray.”  What I need from you at this time is to stay with me, to be with me. 

Compassion can also be described as standing in another’s shoes.  To stand in another person’s shoes is to see the world as they see it, from their perspective.  This may not be easy.  It may require us to let go of our opinions, our prejudices, our need to be in control.  Compassion invites us to allow others to find their own solutions to their problems.  This means that we may have to let go of our need to fix things.  True dialogue requires this kind of compassion.  Openness and a willingness to stand in the shoes of others create the possibility of compromise and consensus.  

In its purest form compassion is the ability to feel with others.  The word itself literally means ‘with passion.’  To enter into the passion of others is to be truly compassionate.  There is a story told about the French diocesan priest known as the Cure d’Ars.  When the only son of an elderly widow died the Cure came to visit her.  People expected him to help her make sense of her loss.  Instead he simply sat beside her, put his hand on her shoulder and let his tears flow with hers.  This is a beautiful example of compassion.  Compassion is more than sympathy. It is empathy.

In my view, now is not the time for moralising or preaching.  Of course there are lessons to be learned from the terrible crisis we are experiencing.  But these lessons are for later.  What we all need now is compassion. So let’s try to be this compassionate presence for one another.